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Two lovely cups from two gorgeous pals

Darling pals, every once in a while I read something and know I have to share it with you. This morning it was piece in last Sunday’s Wall Street Journal on a subject near and dear to all of us, and much discussed on the Bowman Hall Facebook page. A light went on for me, and maybe it will for you. I’ll just type in the whole dang quote, and if you want to find the article, it’s by Caitlin Moran, “How to Be a Woman,” excerpted from her soon-to-be-released book. So here goes:

“In a nutshell, then, by choosing food as your drug — sugar highs, or the deep, soporific calm of carbs — you can still make the packed lunches, do the school run, look after the baby, stop in on your parents and then stay up all night with an ill 5-year-old — something that is not an option if you’re regularly climbing into the cupboard under the stairs and knocking back quarts of scotch.

Overeating is the addiction of choice of ‘carers,’ and that’s why it’s come to be regarded as the lowest-ranking of all the addictions It’s a way of screwing yourself up while still remaining fully functional, because you have to. Fat people aren’t indulging in the ‘luxury’ of their addiction, making them useless, chaotic or a burden. Instead, they are slowly self-destructing in a way that doesn’t inconvenience anyone. And that is why it’s so often a woman’s addiction of choice.”

Amen, sisters. So many of us are on this path, past or present. Hold your gorgeous, care-giving heads up. Have some green tea with a loving pal.

 

 

 


101 Comments

  1. Jodie B says:

    That hit so close to home that for once Mizz. Jodie Peaches is at a loss for words. Make sure her book ends up in our store please.

  2. michelle says:

    Definitely makes you think! So glad you are always looking out for us, Lynne!! Definitely makes me want to keep making those changes to be the best I can be, not only for myself, but for those two awesome kids I have!!

  3. ShannieY says:

    This is exactly what Jay Qualls and I were talking about yesterday. Family and friends don’t even realize that the “carer” is killing themselves because the family & friends are to busy being “cared” for. I begged my Mama to quit smoking, make better food choices, exercise and to JUST SAY NO to people. She put everyone above herself and it killed her. She died of her first (and last) heartache at the age of 52. I’m bound and determined to make better lifestyle choices and stick around on this here earth…just to piss a few people off 😉

  4. stephl says:

    I was indeed self-destructing, with my drug of choice. Sugar. Now have my head up, shoulders back, and walking forward, thanks in part to you Lynne, Deidre, and Bowman Hall for giving me that push I needed when I was finally ready to hear it.

  5. Kelley Marie says:

    This hit home for me too. Thanks Lynne, you always seem to get me thinking.

  6. ClaudiaM says:

    Very true. And the thing is we all have to eat so sometimes that logic can also get in the way. We can justify ‘eating our feelings’.

  7. JessieD says:

    Over eating may be the worst habit ever! It’s too easy and accessible.

  8. Manda "Fluffy" says:

    Cheers Auntie L, wow this really gives you something to think about…

  9. ShannieY says:

    We, as women & caregivers, often cannot tell the difference between eating to fulfill or feel full. We use food as a shield and a weapon. It can be our best friend and our biggest foe.

    • stephanieb says:

      Shannon–I’ve never noticed the word contrast between being “fulfilled” or “feeling full” before. Hmmm…very good.

  10. Toni says:

    This is something I struggle with constantly. I’ve noticed it especially over the last few days. I love how it mentions that overeating is a slow self-destruction. Powerful stuff to think about. Thanks.

  11. Destiny says:

    This is so well said, and such an important topic, thank you for sharing this with us. This is something I struggle with as well, particularly when I’m feeling stressed and/or overwhelmed..It’s amazing how easy it can be to negate the importance of taking care of your own health…but eventually it catches up with you.

    • Mr. Ry says:

      I agree with you Destiny! This is hard for me too as I love me some sweets. One of my favorite books that breaks this stress related eating response down is called, “Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers” by Robert M. Sapolsky. It basically describes how our stress response was designed to handle emergent situations like a Zebra fleeing from a Lion. In this case glycogen is mobilized into glucose so that Zebra can haul some serious booty and flee, after the Zebra hopefully gets away the stress response is turned off. Unfortunately, in our case stress responses remains active due to situations like rent, family, friends, or your gas bill, and this can turn us into mindless eaters craving sweets and for some salty foods. I need to brush up on the actual concepts to tell you more but I found it fascinating. Have a good one and when that Chocolate Croissant in the coffee shop literally starts talking to you when you are having a stressful day, you tell it “I have broken free from your gooey sweet grasp!” and find yourself a delicious healthier option. It is all about the little decisions to elicit change in a bigger way 😉

  12. Linn says:

    I just talked to my mother about this two nights ago. I lost several years of my youth (14-20) to an accident that left it’s mark. My best reason and reminder when it gets tough now is that I’m gonna take those years back by not dying too soon because my body isn’t healthy.

  13. klduck says:

    Being a mom, and being busy taking care of the house is what causes me to forget to eat during the day. I actually have to force myself to have breakfast (which usually doesn’t happen), and I often start cooking dinner in the evening only to realize that I never had lunch either. After a day of being mom/homemaker and either hitting the gym for at least an hour or running 3-5 miles, I’m starving at night. And since I don’t sleep, I’m always looking for something to eat in the middle of the night. Now that I have a more rigorous workout routine that includes running, weight lifting, and crossfit 6 days a week, I’ve had to become more diligent on my food intake throughout the day.

  14. stephanieb says:

    “slowly self-destructing in a way that doesn’t inconvenience anyone.” I’m still chewing on that one. Food addiction is such a sneaky issue because we CAN be fully functional and outwardly “normal” to everyone else, while the chaos and destruction are wreaking havoc on the inside. Loved this article, Lynne. It rings very true.

  15. Mr. Ry says:

    My best advice on this subject which people absolutely hate to hear… keep a food journal. I’m not saying keep a food journal for your whole life, but if you do it for about 5 to 7 days and use a free online program like fitday.com you will get all sorts of analyses of your eating habits and you can figure out how you need to change what you are eating in your and my ongoing effort in becoming the thin and gorgeous Facebabes I know you all are!

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